I couldn’t agree with Amy more. I do not know the context in which she made this comment, but here is my little piece of mind, based on my observations and past encounters.
I heard from someone (I forgot who) many years ago that you can’t please your man if you want to please the camera. At that time it made me wonder, is it really impossible to strike a balance?
Female celebrities have to stay slim (some might classify us as skinny or thin in person) so that we look just right on television (unless you’re being paid millions of dollars to be Bridget Jones). But our man might not necessarily like that bony frame. When you have to watch what you eat, or go for facial/massage/manicure/pedicure/hair treatment/colour etc (again), you are accused of being obsessed with how you look, and (gasp!) of being vain.
It’s a word dripping with negative connotation.
The entertainment industry is one where looks play a crucial role. Let’s face it, if you see someone good-looking, you tend to pardon his/her lacklustre delivery. At least for a while. Besides, if looks don’t matter, then there’s no reason to have models and celebrities wear designer clothes, front brand campaigns, endorse products and advocate charity movements. So while we’re honing our craft of acting (which is just one part of being a celebrity), we can’t just simply neglect our physical attributes. So why should we be made to feel guilty, least so by our man, when we want to look good?
Speaking to some of my fellow colleagues who are facing boyfriend woes, I come to realise that these men just can’t accept their girlfriends being in the entertainment industry. It baffles me that their boyfriends put them down, and make them feel like they’re fame hungry or dabbling in meaningless play-acting that are not comparable to their “proper” high-flying jobs. It breeds insecurity and paranoia. It’s like everything they want to do for themselves in this industry, they have to hold back, because they’re afraid of how their boyfriends would think or judge them. “You have changed ever since you entered the industry” or “You were no longer that innocent girl I knew back then” are the most painful comments that I can imagine, will keep me all night wondering if there’s something wrong with me. Wondering if perhaps I shouldn’t give my best because “this job is for bimbos and wannabes”, which by the way, are unfair stereotypes. Since when does being a celebrity equate to any of those vile labels?
If the men think they know their girlfriends so well that they can decide that this isn’t the best job for them, think again. It’s hard for us girls to be ourselves when we’re being choked by a man who isn’t willing to relinquish the negative judgments on us. We need your love, affection and support, not your judgments and emotional punishments.
The worst kind of boyfriends are those who cheat and lie and get caught. This comes close, because when your man is always cynical and negative about everything you do, it’s detrimental to your emotional state.
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