不经意的情感或许是最真实的。
偶尔听到熟悉的歌曲，会让我想到某一个人和当时爱上这首歌和他的滋味，可能是甜蜜的回忆，可能是可惜的悔过，反正心中的火焰已经不由自主地在闪烁。
我很怀念谈恋爱的感觉，这个话题，我依稀记得曾经提过，而这种感觉有时比较强烈，有时却被其他的事情掩盖。我不知道这是不是大部分女生的心态，还是我已经落伍了，事业是排在感情之后。总觉得有爱情的女生会散发妩媚，会散发光彩，会积极面对每一项挑战。或许那是我吧，谈恋爱的时候，感觉很完美，尤其是被爱人宠，被爱人疼，更是天塌下来我也不怕。
我记得以前和一位好同学谈过，他当时还单身，认为理想情人是一个聪明能干的女生，能和他一起成长，能互相激发彼此精益求精。后来他找到了，在一起一段时间后，因为性格不合，分手了。他跟我说了之后，我想我们的理想条件或许不能成为感情的基础吧！我可以说希望自己的另一半是个有智慧，孝顺，体贴的男人，不过这些条件太肤浅了而且也随时可以反咬我一口。
太聪明的男人会不会整天象老师一样管教我，责备我的不是好激发我进步，为了让我改进而强调我微不足道的地方？心里委屈，却又说不过他，因为他有道理。
太孝顺的男人会不会因为尽责忽略我的感受？因为做孝子的理由充分而冷落我？不能怪他，心里却又不好受。
太体贴的男人会不会把关心变成占有欲强的借口？喜欢他保护我，珍惜我，可是又不要他干涉我的生活习惯，朋友喜好。
以上只不过是比例，毕竟我本人没有所谓的择偶条件，很多时候我是靠感觉。说不上为什么会喜欢他，他的优点嘛，又不算是独一无二，不见得其他男人没有同样，甚至比他更好的条件。所以喜欢他的话还蛮莫名其妙的！
哎，谈恋爱不容易，因为一切都要靠彼此衡量，才能走长远的路。”蜜月恋爱“之后的初期或许难熬，但是我相信经过坎坷的路，才能继续牵着手，一起走下去。
有一首歌《对的人》歌词很贴切。
愛要耐心等待 仔細尋找 感覺很重要
寧可空白了手 等候一次 真心的擁抱
我相信在這個世界上 一定會遇到
對的人出現 在眼角
Good things are worth the wait
A Jolly Affair 
hellohello ! i’m not the joey that u known long ago. i’m the joey that u saw last year at rg. remember? haha ! Actually was supposing to see u today but end up ?!?! haha ! Shall see u real soon alright ?!
cheers =)
hi,
i wrote to you previously but you didn’t reply.
so i thought of writing it again.
hope you can help me out with it.
i’m having difficulties in studying for my “N” levels this year.
do you mind telling me how you handle your studies when you’re younger?
mind sharing some tips with me, so that i can focus and not neglect my studies down.
hope to receive a reply from you soon.
can you tag my blog as well to let me know you have reply me.
Thanks alot.
Lots of <3,
steph
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Yeah!
I think most girls have the same feeling as you towards falling in love.
Good things are really worth the wait (:
Nice angle of you being taken ya(:
♥ Take Care
Hi… Joanne,
有時會來看看只是很少留言的我…就來做個沙發吧!
看到你對愛的定義…哈 我仍屬於那種隨緣狀態…
說真的 那種感覺 真的是 莫名奇妙
當你心中有所謂的理想 但有時並非就會百分百一樣的讓你遇到
誰也想不到 喜歡的 總是有那些你曾經不喜歡的部份
但卻很奇異的 並不影響你喜歡他…
現在對於是否發展愛情 …仍保持隨緣吧…
因為我還真不容易喜歡上某人…
但當喜歡了 就是喜歡了… 變得更會想關心他的一切…
嘻… 不多說了 該睡了 祝 好夢!
Heya
I like this piece…rather reflective piece and in ways echoes a few sentiments with mine..
希望你在爱情的道路上能找到自己的幸福 😉
do keep writing and have a good week ahead!
爱情可以是一道比1+1更简单的问题，也可以是一道用尽一生时间也解不开的迷题。就看当局者怎样去看待它。它来的时候不会对你说“hi”，走的时候也不需要对你说“byebye”，因为如果它已经在你心里存在了，那么它就会在那，它一丁点儿的变化你都会不由自主地察觉。
理想中的爱情总是完美的。现在现实中的爱情，却总是被人“不得已”，“不经意”地掺杂了很多“杂质”。也许不能否认这种“现实”，因为它确确实实存在着，而每一种事物的存在也许都有它的合理性。也许只能用个人价值观不同来解释了。
现在的爱情世界里，没有绝对的，完完全全的“MR/MISS Right”。 你的他（她）就是他（她），在现实生活的过程中，经过时间的洗礼，相互的磨合，也许有一天你突然回首你们所走过的爱情道路，你可能会发现你已经忘记了原来的“初衷”，忘记了你曾经对你的“MR/Miss Right”提出的一切要求和条件。因为你也许已经得到了更多，是属于你自己的，也是属于你和你的“他（她）”的。
hey Joanne! 在一个可以“天马行空”的年纪，就去追求“天马行空”的爱情吧！容易，不容易就在你一念之间。当你走过了一条你认为不容易走的路，回头再看它时，你会发觉其实它没有你想象的难走。所以敢敢去爱啦！：) 加油！
I’m glad you’re not unyielding in those “qualities of the ideal man” wishlist… this way I can tell myself that I still stand a chance!
Seriously though, we humans exist to be a living contradiction. What we want is not always what we need… the grass is always greener on the other side… when we get what we want, regret / self-doubt sets in to nudge us to seek for greener pastures… You’re just showing that you’re human, right?
For me, the song that always stirs up these emotions about past relationship is Tanya Chua’s “True Love”
每個人都期待下次遇到真愛 才放棄的比珍惜還快
每個人都期待早點找到真愛 只可惜我們都 一直到
有一天彼此懷念時才明白
If you’re the thinking of the past, is the past thinking of you?
Your Canadian Fan!
hello joanne jie,
i read a magazine and it says that you and Tay Bing Hui are in a relationship. heehee!=)
did you see the comment about sentosa from me?
that time a saw you filming at sentosa on the 28th of may and im one of the supporters there.
if you can remember, im wearing orange colour t-shirt with shiny pics on it. i dun thin euu can remember.
JIAYOUS for everything!:D
hie joanne jie jie… i agree wif wad you say – good things are worth the wait=)did you recieve the email i sent you?
Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
– Dahli Lama
感性的告白，内心的暗喻。和你的外形有好大的对比！恋爱嘛，没有时，每当有多余时间，就会胡思乱想；有时，却会怕被伤害。女人会放好多的条件，但，有一天妳回首一望，身边的他，到底符合了多少？
有冲动想谈个恋爱？还是想逛街时，有个手可以搭着呢？恋爱的女人最美，没错，可是恋爱不是永远那么甜蜜，一段用心的老夫妻，走来的路未必只有甜吧？！
I guess I might receive not any reply from you. But I want to say is that what you mention in this article totally reflect what I am thinking now. I want to say it loud ” I totally agreed on it”. My feeling towards a guy that I like last for only a few weeks, and one day he sit infront of me talking to me, I look at him suddenly I feel that he is not the one. And the feeling is gone………..
Hi Steph,
During my time, I guess we had less distractions, no handphone, no broadband, no cable tv, no msn etc, so studying was the usually the better option. First of all, why do u have difficulties studying? What are these difficulties? Only after identifying the problems will it be easier to find the solutions!
Joanne
Hi Joanne,
Not sure when I chanced upon ur blog but I find ur blog realli insightful, honest and interesting to read.
I find u’re a talented actress who’s willing to learn and improve. I’m definitely looking out for ur works more!
Jia u and wish u success!
oh okay, i couldn’t memorise the notes and keypoints for some particular subject. and that annoys me alot. i tried many times to focus on it, but i tend to feel sleepy after reading for awhile.
Hi Fishie,
Thank ewwww!! 🙂 Support my blog ~!
Love,
Joanne
Hi Steph,
Have u tried drawing mind-maps? I know this might sound boring to you, but when I find things hard to remember, I try to make it fun to learn and memorise. Depending on the subject, I may draw mind-maps, stick them around the room, or u can write down certain points on cue-cards and look at them everyday, and before you sleep, try to recite what’s on the card. If you do this consistently, then you won’t find that you have so many cards to read just before the exam. I don’t know if it’ll work for you, I hope you find a fun way to study ok?
Love,
Joanne
wow! my frens and I saw u at zara e other day. u were reali tall n tanned now!!! anyway, jia you!!! don tink too much…jus follow your own heart! i love 对的人 tis song! all the best to you!!
Hi Joanne, Is it possible that I become a star?I have been upgrading myself.Thanks:) Hope you reply
wow, this is a really nice entry. i agree with what u’ve said, i always hear people say my future bf or husband must be like what what what, but when u relly meet the one u love, who will care if he owns a car or has how much money right? hehe. hey joanne, i enjoy reading your blog. full of insightful ideas, bu kui shi ex-temasekian and graduate from NTU SCI de! hehe i’m your junior wor. also from temasek sec and SCI. jiayou!
很感激你的分享, 很多时候我这个女生觉得很脆弱, 但也可以很坚强. 我对爱情的价值观, 爱过轰轰隆隆, 人生就没有遗憾了.但踏实的感情不能随意破坏. 爱不爱他,说不说出口,在一起吗,都并不重要… 只要有过这份情感那就很满足了.至今,还是很想很想-属余我们的歌,舞,天空…
对了, 直从零八年头杂志有介绍你的blog,我就偶尔上你的网站.把你的website联结到我的blog.希望更多人会欣赏和自持.加油!
hi..
i am just passing by..
so thinking of dropping a comment…
and ya..will always support you..
so..take care..