母亲节前夕的感触


我曾经说过要四个孩子,可是最近这个念头有些动摇。或许是每天报章里都提到物价上涨的趋势,又或许是一天我在银行看见了一个宣传广告提到现在的大学学费在十年后会起到双倍的事实,经济上的能力是个很残酷的考虑因素。

结婚,生育,养育孩子的话题最近一直在我身边环绕着。除了阿姐和阿哥的婚礼之外,我前两天为了i周刊的一个故事,访问了权怡凤大姐,她也跟我分享自己身为母亲的一些感受。

在加上我刚刚看完 “My Sister’s Keeper”,而且看到最后,眼泪簌簌留下。当时在化妆间,大家都被我吓到,以为发生什么事。哎,我就是这么投入剧情,深深的感受到故事里身为母亲的那种挣扎和痛苦。她为了救大女儿,和丈夫生了个designer baby,目的就是要利用妹妹身体的资源,来维持姐姐的性命。你能说她错了吗?后来妹妹决定起诉父母,要求medical emancipation,因为她不想在让医生利用她的身体了。母亲以为她自私,以为她对女儿们的想法和感受了如指掌,可是她究竟真的懂吗?还是她只想安抚自己是个尽责的母亲?

妹妹需要捐出她的肾脏给姐姐。姐姐身子弱,可能得到肾脏后也未必会活下来,可是得不到就肯定活不久,而妹妹又可能会遇到生命危险,到底要让谁去冒这个险呢?两者都是自己身上的肉,你可想像这是多么痛苦的抉择?

她拼命在为女儿的生存烦恼, 千辛万苦,可是却发现女儿如此不珍惜生命,那种打击又如何?

如果自己的女儿已经脑死, 而唯一在帮她呼吸的是一台机器,在关掉它的那一刻,算不算是亲手结束女儿的性命呢?

读到这里,我真的忍不住了,因为我心里是痛不欲生的。

母亲节的意义重大,因为在把孩子带到世界的那一刻,她早已牺牲自我。

这两位身穿黑色汗衫的就是宝宝的父母。

祝天下的母亲,母亲节快乐!

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26 responses to “母亲节前夕的感触

  1. hihi Joanne,
    I bought my mum a card and a rose,and wrote some words in it,she said she was touched when i gave it to her this morning.The baby looks so cute,u looked like u were the mother of the baby in the first pic.I juz wanted to ask u something,why in the new show u are filming only u and Jade need to hold frogs and squids what about Jesseca??

  2. melissa miss j0anne

    wah joanne jiiex..why all ur recent entry in chinese? can post in english?? c0s my c0m cann0t read chinese eh..hmms.wah..whose baby?? so cute eh..tae cares..cya so0n..missyahx..reply me ok??

  3. Yeah. I enjoy reading the book too ! Jodi Picoult is a terrific author. Try the “Nineteen Minutes” written by her too ! It’s about shooting massacre , maybe those elements in the book may help you in your acting…who knows ?
    By the way , “My Sister’s Keeper” has converted into movie. Yeap , starring Cameron Diaz. Couldn’t wait ?

  4. Hey Joanne,

    How do I add your widget to my WordPress account? 🙂

    Please reply asap. Thank you! 😉

  5. 无论怎样都好,父母还是最伟大的。。。
    祝天下的母亲,母亲节快乐!

  6. melissa miss j0anne

    wah joanne jiie..who baby soooo cute??LOL hope to cya so0n ok…hope my exams greades will be good neh..haha..hope u hit me back with a reply ok?? miss yahx

  7. can u type in english instead of chinese?
    😀

  8. Hi Joanne! is My Sister’s Keeper a series or movie?

  9. MISS JOANNE PEH!
    hihi!
    i have been asking you a question for the past many many posts.
    have you received my birthday card?

  10. Hi GJY,

    I’ve read “Nineteen Minutes” already. It was the very first entry for this blog (https://ajollyaffair.wordpress.com/2007/09/20/starting-anew/) 🙂

    I’m eagerly awaiting the movie!

    Love,
    Joanne

  11. Hi Nat,

    I’ve received ur card, thank you very much, I did send you a reply, saying I love the dragonfly very much! Hmmm…My Sister’s Keeper is a story book by Jodi Picoult. 🙂

    Love,
    Joanne

  12. Hi Melissa,

    All the best!

    Love,
    Joanne

  13. Hi Qing Hui

    Just click on the picture, it will take you to this website where you can customise the look of my blog’s widget, and then hit “Get Widget”. Follow the instructions from there! 🙂 Thanks for putting it up on your blog!

    Love,
    Joanne

  14. Hi Germaine,

    That’s very sweet of you! 🙂
    Jess bought flowers, haha, the scene was meant to increase the team members’ displeasure towards her, cos’ she was the one who got us all into the forfeit in the first place and yet had the easiest task.

    🙂 Joanne

  15. eh joanne happy belated birthday leh
    haha today 11 may my birthday also haha
    oh yes be expecting to see u for filming on wed
    hope to see u lah
    thanks for reading my blog leh haha
    hope u will continue reading
    is there any way i can contact u instead of this way?
    haha want to return ur dinner leh

  16. O-zaki Simizutoro

    Hi Joanne, i still can’t guess who is your lover and enemy in the shows called: THE TRUTH. can you please tell me the answer and also please tell me what is your next shows after: THE TRUTH.

    From: O-zaki Simizutoro

  17. Hi Jacob,

    Happy belated birthday!!

    I already said it’s not necessary, so don’t worry too much. My email address is available on the sidebar, so feel free to contact me via email. 🙂

    Love,
    Joanne

  18. Hi O-zaki Simizutoro

    I’ ve already answered ur question le 😦 Pls refer to your earlier comments for response okie?

    Love,
    Joanne

  19. wow! cute baby! i scored my english oral with flying colours. sooo happy! only miss by one mark!!!

  20. HaHa. Okey =) Didn’t notice it.

  21. you did? i didnt received anything…
    ):
    anyways, glad you like it
    did you send an email or post it here. cause if you did, i didnt see anything
    BYE
    for now…
    take care ya?

  22. 之前,老板在晚餐聚会问,何时要有育婴计划,答案让他和其他同事不解。要生育一个孩子,不会太难,但既然要产生一个生命,就得对他负责。总觉得,如果我把他带到这个世上,如果让他受苦受难,会不会太过分了。“世界末日”,会不会降临?缅甸还没解决,四川又来一单。你说。。。笑我杞人忧天,但就算我忧国忧民吧。。。孩子,没能把自己照顾好之前,就还是保留他的出世吧!

  23. hey joanne,
    you loved jodi picoult? didnt knoe that >..<

    err…did i double post?

  24. That’s what I did. I’m currently using WordPress, and it says that I have to embed the code to the CSS thing, but I don’t know how to do it.

    🙂

  25. hihi Joanne,
    Wanted to ask u this question two days ago but was not able to use the com,u said u wanted 4 kids,how many gals and boys do u want??Hope is not too personal.:)

  26. hi…i think that book’s really touching too..its a bit of tug-o-war for the parents.

    oh, i hav a qns, is the guy in pink beside you Cui Peng? he looks very familiar..jus curious.

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