说话伤人


我们常常很容易对我们所爱的人感到不耐烦,对他们说话的语气也不比我们对朋友,或是陌生人来得客气。

我了解这种滋味。是很难过的。

所以话在脱口而出之前,一定要记得考虑对方的感受。不要把他当成理所当然,要不然亲情也好,友情和感情也好,一旦伤了对方,是很难弥补裂痕的。

olympicsmascots.jpg
我两年前到北京的时候,他们已经在收买各式各样的奥运吉祥物。可爱吧!

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54 responses to “说话伤人

  1. aiyo.. u noe everyday i visit your blog… in hope of something in ENGLISH! but… it never happens… what is with you and chinese???
    i’m still your no.1 fan…
    hoping…
    nat…

  2. Hi Joanne,
    truly agreed with what you said. But at times, during fit of anger, we normally don’t react normally due to the anger and impatience rushing thru our heads… and blast the words came out irregardless of how hurtful it may sounds. Only after that we do realise how heavy the damage is.. maybe before we blast we can take a few deep breath, calm ourselves down and then slowly say whatever we want but in a nicer manner…after a hectic long run, normally we cool down by breath in and breath out rite? so i think same theory applies here 🙂

    anyway, the Beijing souvenirs that you’ve displayed I also have! LOL.. i believed the 1 that you displayed below the cans are key chains right?

    these 5 mascots are called Fuwa. Each of them have individual names. They are namely “BeiBei”, “JingJing”, “HuanHuan”, “YingYing”, & “NiNi”. Combine each of these mascots first name together and you will have “Bei Jing Huan Ying Ni” literally meaning, in english. heee… Last year heard from my tour guide whilst in Shanghai for a short holiday.

    more info can be found here…
    http://en.beijing2008.cn/spirit/beijing2008/graphic/n214068254.shtml

    Joanne, do take care, lately you are so busy… *grump*

    Regards, jacks0n

  3. Hi Nat,

    Joanne did explained why she used chinese most of the time for her blog somewhere in her archive so u gotta take some time to search thru lo….

  4. 孤单小精灵

    对丫,有时真的因为自己的爱人或亲人而对他不礼貌的说话,在无意间伤害了他们,现在开始发现很不好!!
    就像对妈妈一样,我真得很爱妈妈,可是对他最不礼貌的最伤害到他的话语都是从我口中说出,每次让他伤心难过,可是自己就控制不了,很辛苦,不知道怎么去控制自己的情绪!!!
    那个福娃真得很可爱,我也很喜欢收集,现在收集到了他的娃娃,好可爱哦,不过很贵,哈哈!!!
    《北京欢迎你》(贝贝,晶晶,欢欢,迎迎,妮妮)

  5. really? but its find with me… my chinese can-make-it de (:

  6. Joanne!!!!!! =) Haha today after my Os,i finally have the time to buy ur Citta Bella mag!!!! Wow i open it,i saw cool pictures of u!!!! Shi mei de lor!!!!! =) haha i gonna go scan those pictures and post on my blog soon.Tmr is my so called ‘ last day’ of O levels!!! I am extremely happy!!!! Finally can see u again soon!!!!Haha tonight i might appear or may not appear at ur event, i am still not very sure yet.I hope to go!Hehe jia you jia you wors!!!!! *Kiss* XD

  7. In respond to ur this entry,my opinion was sometimes things are not within our control,we speak freely and sometimes hurts other with our words, without us knowing.The best thing to do at the moment is to remain calm and think first,sometimes people don’t think so much and say what they want and they like.Yup we need to be rational always! =) hehe those cans is soo cute!!!=)

  8. Hi Joanne,

    It’s been quite awhile since i last tagged… But i still do read ur entries ya… Heh!

    Well, i really agree with wat u’ve said… We’ve always taken pple ard us for granted, sometimes to the extend of hurting them and not caring abt their feelings… I dun deny im also like that sometimes but i’ll always feel very bad after that… So i guess i’ve to work harder in that area bah… Haha!

    Anyway, i believe u muz be very busy now since there’s a new drama for u… So do take care ya! And rest well too… =)

    Cheers,
    Delphine

  9. well.. ppl do take things for granted at times. so gotta keep reminding ourselves.

    anyway, glad tt u update ur blog often. cheers =)

  10. hi joanne,
    err..sorry i cant go to support you Suntec City Galleria..so sorry..and bythe way, what secondary school do u go to when u were a student?

  11. Which one… gt so many leh…as in which month? tk..

  12. Hi Joanne

    明年你会去北京亲身感受奥运吗?

  13. btw: 看你身高很高,身材也很fit,你是sporty girl吗?你喜欢什么体育项目呢?

  14. omg, now den realised my post got some errors.. lol.. “Bei Jing Huan Ying Ni” literally means Beijing welcomes you for the Olympics in English.. sorry my bad..

    Regards, jacks0n

  15. hi. it would be nice if you could blog in english so that your other-races-fans can still enjoy reading your blog.

    still, we are behind you!!

    rawk on!

  16. hello joanne!!! MISS U!! hehe=p u look so pretty today! oops is everyday xD

  17. hi joanne, yupp! totally agree, cos infront of people we love, we are ourselves, we dont act, infront of others, we suit ourselves to hu we are infront of!

  18. Hihi Joanne,
    Princesses and the dude is coming up,awaiting for ur turn
    to be on tat show!!Support u always,dun stress urself up!!kk Bye!:)

  19. beibei, jingjing, huanhuan, yingying, nini~

    im going beijing next year xD

  20. Hi Rachel,

    I was from Temasek Sec. 🙂

    Joanne

  21. Hi Ken,

    我想很难吧!我已经一年多没放过假也没出国,所以我已经不再期望有空。哈哈,我想如果明年没戏拍,我真的会很不知所措。已经习惯了忙碌,要我停下来,可能需要时间适应。你指的体育项目是观看的吗?我喜欢看排球,也说不上原因。游泳也很精彩,因为分秒必争,不到最后一分秒都不知道谁是冠军。

    Joanne

  22. Hi Mac,

    I know what you mean! Sigh…
    I guess I want to preserve most of myself in this blog, rather than let it become just a platform to publicise.

    Every entry is written because I want to share my thoughts and my entries depend a lot on whether I can express that particular subject I’m writing about better in Chinese or English.

    I don’t want to end up writing for the sake of writing, because I want to be as true to all of you as you are to me. I’m sorry the non-Chinese group feels alienated. It is definitely not my intention to do so, but I sincerely hope you can be patient for my English entries ok?

    I may not update often, but I will, when inspiration hits. 🙂 Promise.

    Love,
    Joanne

  23. Nat…i think u gotta search for it la….slowly read all the archive…i remember Joanne did mentioned somewhere that was like months ago but definitely is within this year.

    Have fun reading~becos i did!!

  24. Hi Joanne,

    so happy to see you posting again 🙂 I am so upset now. My car just got banged… so freaking angry and disappointed. Now my bumper don’t know look like what. Need to do and respray!!!

    ANGRY Jacks0n

  25. 人往往都是在伤害自己身边的人。 很多次自己察觉之后却又害羞不敢道歉。。。就这样。。。。大家误会才会越来越多。

    往往对妈妈都很不客气。 对很close的朋友偶尔也会。。。是因为我们take them for granted or is it we are so close that we feel we unknowningly 流露出我们最真实的一面?

    虽然大家都知道这问题。。。可是要如何在说话之前都考虑到 这点却有不会slow down in talking? 很多时候很多话都是一时冲动而已。。。往往都是说出来的那一刹那之后才后悔。。。thats why sometimes i like to chat over msn rather than face 2 face ><

  26. hi joanne jie jie,

    i agree with you that we may take our families like silblings for granted. they may not know any respect but we should also not take them for granted.. my view was, if you take them for granted, they will also take you for granted.. so to keep on the relationship, we should respect one another and do not take anyone who love you for granted… do you agree joanne jie jie?

    love,
    alicia

  27. may i noe wen u will be appearing on the new variety show,princess n the dude.or rather ,on which epi.i want to catch u there .yeahh…
    🙂
    best regards,
    veron.(‘<‘)

  28. hi joanne jie!
    sry so long mei gen ni shuo hua!
    i so yr imagin photos for er mi…
    sry forgot the tittle:)
    so how is it goin smooth shootin?
    haha this post hen you yi yi a!
    btw this is my e-mail please e-mail me !
    ilivebyreasons@hotmail.com

    hope to see u in mediacorp again!

  29. hi joanne.

    wow. thanks for replying my tag. i see where you are coming from. no worries though. it must be tough when you have irregular working hours and hectic schedules. please take care of yourself.

    always your fan.

  30. i’ll wait… even if i takes all my life…. haha… thats how much i support you!
    muacks…
    your fan forever…
    nat…

  31. Hello, i was from temasek sec too!
    do you stay at bedok area ?
    I think i saw you before at bedok area!

  32. Hi Nat..

    this the link for Joanne’s explanation on writing her blog in chinese. It’s a Sept 24th entry.

    https://ajollyaffair.wordpress.com/2007/09/24/%e9%a2%86%e6%82%9f/

    Wah…i can actually remember entries.. (^u^ )

  33. melissa miss j0anne

    heyy s0wrrie f0r n0t c0mmenting f0r a l0nqq time….anyway j0anne jiie its been quite awhile since i last met up with y0u.! hmm..anyway sry that i c0uld nt make 0n m0n f-r the suntec thing..had sumthing on at that timing..haixx…anyway..have y0u received the pics yet??

    l0ve,
    melissa

  34. Hi joanne jie jie… i agree with what you said…the beijing souveniorrs you displayed are cans and keychains? i have the keychains…the people from china came to our school for an exhibition and they sold fans, badges and keychains…and i bought the keychains. Each of them have individual names. They are namely “BeiBei”, “JingJing”, “HuanHuan”, “YingYing”, & “NiNi”. Combine each of these mascots first name together and you will have “Bei Jing Huan Ying Ni” ..cool right …haz.

    did you check your email when you are free??? did you recieve the email tt i emailed you???
    sometimes when you blog, can you blog in english too cos i lazy to read the chinese 1..

  35. sry 2 b rude but i agree with nat…! i can’t read chinese so well, pls write in english 4 the next post!

  36. anyways, i went to beijing last yr. i oso saw the olympics thingy. i like the panda and the red one. i got one key chain from my drum teacher and i got lots of the charms from an auntie but lost quite a number and gave some others away.

  37. i forgotten their names then when i read from datoupek i understand it was actually bei jing welcome u.

  38. Joanne! =) Yay top 10 first Star award ranking!!!! Must continue to jia you!!!! Must win star award!!!! =)))))))) CONGRATS!!!! u must be super happy now! =)

  39. hello joanne(:

    we would like to invite you to JunyuanPrimary School’s nostalgia evening on 16 november 2007.

    Time: 7pm-9.30pm
    Venue: Junyuan Primary School

    EMAIL US!
    HAHAHAHAHA

  40. Hello Joanne,

    just came back home after work and logged in to see your blog 🙂 you are so busy lately hor.. LOL.. hoping to see you post your blog and read your replies to other fans… 🙂

    even you are busy do take good care of yourself.. lately many around me started having bad flu, cough fever etc etc.. I myself also not very well, went to Sims Avenue the other night and had supper with my girlfriend at the Sims Ave famous dim sum outlet 126 opposite Lorong 17 Geylang.. food is very nice but after that, I start having bad stomach headache (stomachache.. LOL) I don’t know if it’s the dim sum or because I am falling sick so the stomachache all came together..

    hope to hear from you soon or see your post k? eat well, rest well, play well and sleep well j0annE!

    regards, jacks0n

  41. Just want to share a story that is on the theme of anger as well.

    Once there was a boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

    Finally the first day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

    “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry’, the wound is still there.”

  42. Please don’t force Joanne to write in english, if she feels more comfortable with writting chinese for that particular post.When she finds that english would be better for her to express her feelings,thoughts,emotion and others,she will write in english.Please do not blame anyone if one chinese is not good.If one is chinese and is bad in chinese,i don’t know what to say.Your own roots.

  43. Hi! I remembered the last time I posted on your Tagboard/Shoutbox/Cbox to recommend you to switch to WordPress. I didn’t know if that has impacted your switch to WP, but from your blog I can see that you’re starting to love WordPress.

    Anyway, I’ve a WordPress blog too, it’s about Gaming, IT and Jokes. Click here to visit!

  44. Hi PS,

    What a wonderful story. Yes, that is a good analogy for peeps who get into great anger easily, some damage will leave scars for eternity, so be careful to check your own temper always. Whenever, you feel like exploding, take a few deep breaths, and put yourself in the other shoes if you should flare up. Treat your loved ones and your friends with great respect, and you will greatly sow rewards from good relationships you fostered.

  45. Joanne muz be busy these days,no new posts frm u!!Hope to hear frm u soon.Bye!!U roxs 4eva:)

  46. hi joanna … this is my first time writing to u … my name is isabella yr fan i hope i can add u in msn as my friend if u dun mind de… hehe… my msn hotmail is huiiqiin_18@hotmail.com if u dun wan de i will nt force u de thks…

  47. Hi all,

    nice story PS! I totally agreed with what you had said and urged all to tolerate more in times of things not going your way. Don’t blast off without thinking as you may regret what you had said. Have a nice week ahead. Miss Joanne al0t… she is so very busy!

    lastly don’t forget to call for Joanne for Star Awards!

    miss-u-l0ts-jacks0n

  48. Hello everyone,

    I have been reading your messages, but please pardon me if I haven’t been replying them (and the emails too!).

    To Geradyn, yes I remember you and your brother!

    To Melissa, nope I haven’t received any photos from you.

    To Yiling, Nat (and the others who prefer English post), there’s a new post in English!

    To Isabella, sorry I don’t msn. You can write to the Yahoo Group email address ajollyaffair@yahoo.com.sg but I will take some time to read and reply. So it’ll be much easier if you leave comments okie?

    Sorry if I missed out some other comments/questions, I’m feeling very groggy now, so signing off okie?

    Love ya all!

    HUGS

    Joanne

  49. A Big THANK YOU to all those who has been calling for me! I haven’t been keeping track of what’s going on, but I’ve had many people come up to me giving me encouragement and sharing kind words. I feel all the love and warmth and I sincerely want to thank each and everyone of you, whom I have crossed paths with, from the bottom of my heart.

    XOXO,
    Joanne

  50. Joanne, don’t groggy! You have to be fit and strong, cannot afford to fall sick!! rest more kkz… Hope to hear from you soon… hugs…

    to all man united fan, man utd 2 blackburn 0.. cheers!

    jacks0n!

  51. Yup Joanne must rest well and stay fit wors! Cannot fall sick at this point in time.Jia you! Jia You! Jia you!!!!

  52. hi joanne are u busy at this moment cause never tag me lolss^^ nvm keep busy-ing lolss

  53. Hi Joanne,
    I love “The Golden Path”
    You act as Kaiqi right?
    GREAT acting!
    =)

    oh,by the way,
    which primary school did you go to?

    p.s keep yourself healthy and ROCK ON!

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