有感而发


上个星期,去了两个守灵。其中一个逝世的是位曾经让我漂亮过的化妆师。我们不特别熟,可是他每次看到我,都会跟我开玩笑。他说话不饶人,可我也从不放在心上,毕竟我知道他没有恶意,只是比较直率。

人的命真的就是这样的脆弱。

这几个月发生的事让我学了宝贵的一课,情绪的起落也让我更成熟了。我参考了一些佛教的哲理,开始觉得身心的发展比什么都重要。生活中的点滴所领悟的道理,慢慢形成了我的座右铭。

最近感到又幸福又快乐,不管有什么不愉快,或不顺利的事,都很快被内心的那股力量打散。 我会幸福,快乐,是因为我身边有很多天使在守护我。可能听起来有点荒谬。身边的人所为我做的一切,以前可能没特别留意,但现在我真的感受到他们对我的爱,让我很满足也很感激。身边的人,不管是同学,家人,同事,对我的善意都是心底的诚意,不该当成理所当然。

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我的一个好朋友刚从欧洲回来,给我带了纪念品。有个人就跟我说,“你这个朋友自己买了这么多漂亮,贵重的东西,只送你这些不值钱的小玩意儿。”我告诉他,其实她根本没有欠我什么,我也没有要求她买什么给我。她人在国外竟还会想到我,还在不同的地方买了几样东西,已经让我很感动。她的心意并不在于东西值多少钱,因为根本就不能相提并论。再说,廉贵的定义也不分明,见仁见智。

我们往往会对身边的人有要求,但“要求”什么时候变成“奢求”,我们有时自己都不知道。尽管有些善意的行为是自愿的,但没有人喜欢自己的心意被看成是理所当然,所以我常提醒自己,既然不希望别人这么对我,我也绝对不能让这么疼爱我的朋友心里不好过。

如果多些留意身边友人对我们的一些看似微不足道的举动,可能会有所领悟哦!

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21 responses to “有感而发

  1. hi joanne,so what is your religion?

  2. yoz!
    why ur this post so chim de?
    i dun understand at all… ooPS
    my chinese very lousy…
    heeehee, okok, i very lame, haiz, btw, next time if u got time
    IF u got time, can put one summary in emglish for ur other posts?
    heehee
    take cares kayys?
    😀
    emo kid joanne jiayou!

  3. 算了吧….如果你习惯叫我的华语名..就叫我的华语名吧….反正有很多人都叫chris…可能会有人冒充我也说不定…(想太多了…) 在加上我的名字也蛮 特别的…所以,你就继续叫我政纡吧…其实, 在看了您的post…有句话你写的很正确..那就是这句- “..人的命真的就是这样的脆弱。” 有很多事情在我们不知不觉中就发生了….人生的喜怒哀乐说来就来说走就走…有时后一个人的情绪变幻无穷….今天你看他很开心, 明日又是另外一个人…结果就造成了情绪上的压力…有了压力就容易生病….生了病之后…就只有两条路走….一,就是调整一下自己的情绪,以喜乐的心情把病养好(我知道有点难)….二,就是继续痛苦下去…认了这条烂命…死了算了… 别笑喔…确实是有人这样做过…. 有两句话,我曾经读过, “A merry Heart Does good like medicine.” Don’t you think happy people seldom get sick? Even if they are sick, they recover fast? & also “Death and Life, lies in the tongue” I believe that alot of people like to say things like,”die lah, die lah” or maybe things like,” I’m so suay!” don’t you think that even you are not suay, you’ll say until you really become suay…sometimes you might not know, but you are actually prophesizing your life through the things you speak about yourself… 我觉得做人开心就好, 心灵上最好是有一个寄托, 不然很容易崩溃…朋友多是一件好事…可是在众多朋友中, 有谁才是真正的知己? Opps…think I wrote too much… 我只是有感而发捌了… 😉

  4. Yah I agree. It is the little things that count, the precious thoughts that your friends still remember you and regard you important in their lifes. No matter where they are, studying overseas for a few years, or even emigrating. The price of the presents does not come into the equation: even something as simple as a wish card suffices, for you can feel the love that is written on the cards.

    Which reminds me, I must remember most of my good friends’ birthdays from now on, and at least wish them a good bdae. Recently, I or say we have make a good friend a bit angry for plainly forgetting her birthday, but it really didn’t occur to me, because I really forget, not intentionally “boycott” it. Must have a system in place to prevent “forgetting” friends’ bdae.

  5. to Joanne

    难得你在不到24岁的年纪,在这个现实,追求物质,充满诱惑的大环境下,能有这么积极,健康,深刻的人生感悟,这是你的财富!

  6. u had always been an understanding, appreciative, frank girl 😉 i know. 🙂

    thats what i like about u 🙂 🙂

  7. Hehe..joanne, very chim lei..but still understand abit??

  8. hi joanne ..

    在一个星期内, 看见你身边的人离你而去, 伤心总会有, 毕竟他们都曾经是你生活的一部份… 看到你能积极地面对你的人生的起起落落,真的为你感到欣慰…因为我想你这几天的心情并不好过, 一方面要接受这些悲剧, 而另一方面又要忙着拍戏, 明明心情有点低落,但为了拍戏你却要显现最好的状态给大家, 实在不容易.. 我只想说你能这样做已经很棒了,因为这是没有人所能够做到的事, 所以好佩服你能够这么理智地处理你的心情。 可是希望你不要压抑你自己的心情, 要不然等你真的无法在压抑下去, 你可会招架不住…

    相信你现在也学会珍惜你身边的人..

    还有的就是, 我非常赞同你的看法… 收到别人的礼物并不在于礼物的价值而是在于那个送你礼物的人的心意, 至少你知道那个人心里还有你, 很高兴你能这么想…

    但是如果是你爱的人,道理还会一样吗?
    因为曾经我有一个朋友对我说, 一个人如何多爱你是看到底他肯花多少钱在你身上.. 不是吗?起初我很不认同我的朋友的看法。因为这样也就等于自己是一个物品所能够用金钱来买到的,但日久我想想我的朋友所说的话其实还蛮有道理…我想也就是因为这个概念才让人有所奢求吧…
    _______________________________

    哈哈… 刚收到一个短讯关于你下个星期五会在 Takashimaya 那带走 Show .. 首先,我想说我真得很抱歉, 无法去捧你的场…因为我的考试是在十月尾,必须筹备考试… 如果我没有考试的话我可会去捧你的场, 为你加油和打气..

    说到加油打气, 我想问你请问我该如何去买红星大奖的入场门票? 因为说真的今年我实在很想很想到现场为你加油和打气…能否告诉我该怎样迈今年红星大奖的入门票? hehe ..我知道现在问你有可能还早, 可想我是心急了吧… 很期待今年的红星大奖, 看到你上台领奖… keke ..

    我会支持你的!! 你演戏不直很细腻而且也带点可爱的性情… 相信过不久没有人不会不认识你这个人 : 白微秀 =)

    好好加油哦!!

    永远支持你…

  9. Hi Joanne,

    Reading ur blog entry is very enjoyable to me. Everyday the first thing i would do is to switch on the computer and visit ur blog. U’re really good at writing haha. U’re really very mature to me, in terms of ur thinking and attitude. To me not many woman would think or behave like u.

    成熟的女人比认真的男人还要有魅力. ;D

    你不是普通的幸福, 而是很幸福 !!! 因为有我们这群永远都挺你到底的粉丝 !!! XP

  10. joanne what you are writing ? I dont understander chinese at all .can u post in english .or u e-mail me my yahoo is wendy94pinkly@yahoo.com.sg.gtg

  11. It’s always the little thought that counts… =*)

  12. haha my e-mail is
    ilivebyreasons@hotmail.com
    really hopin to recieve an e-mail frm u
    and HAHAAHAHA my yapigu sdo stupid 🙂
    hopefully can see u again
    btw u look very nice in that makeup !
    REPLY ME !

  13. BTW JILIUN IS JILLIAN

  14. hi joanne..i believe the 1st para of ur entry is abt him..yeah it’s kinda sudden n sad bt i believe he’s above watching over us..i still rem tt he’ll call u ‘girl ar’ instead of ur name rite n if i’m not wrong he treat u like his sista =)

  15. anw forgot to ask ,
    rmb i saw u readin all those religon bks while waitin?
    and u said u were interested?
    hmmmm hope u have a made a choice:)
    like me im christian but my family still has a fengshui master!
    real cool to mix with god’s wonderful creation:)
    hope u will settle done on one religon soon!

  16. wooooo (: ur chinese quite diffcult t0 read (: haahs ~ tat s0 nice 0f ur friend t0 buy y0ou things when she is n0rt in singapore :DD anw , takecare , drink load 0f water ^^

  17. 孤单小精灵

    看到你这么说,蛮高兴的,因为我没看错你,你一向都让我那么敬佩,而且思想都很乐观的,我看现在很少像你这样知足的人了!!!加油吧,未来还有很长的路等着我们去走,等着我们去领悟!!!

  18. 我认同你的想法, 心意才是最重要的!

    期待看到你的新戏呢!
    要加油哦~ ^^

  19. Joanne, I agreed of what u had said.. when ppl gave us something, we shall not mind the value & cost of the present is.. Is the heart from the ppl who gave u, cos i believe that when that person gave us the present is use thier time to think, find the place & choice.

    In the bible, God had said that HE gave blessing to peoples & who believe in HIM, also must gave blessing to those their friends. That why, I always do that. I don’t ask for any rewards from any of my friends & those artiste I know.

    As for u go for “awake”, I know 1 of them is some 1 ask me pass msg to u.. Don’t sad. Remember that I had told u the story.. That why, I see & learn alot…

  20. hi joanne,do u believe in fortune telling?

  21. Wow, a fengshui master is visiting Joanne’s site, that’s interesting.

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