喜事

昨天我们黄家办喜事，我还是第一次下跪敬茶。

结婚会被称为喜事我想代表着那应该是件快乐的事，不过要把一生寄托给另外一个人，然后长乡厮守还真是有一点让人害怕。

以前小时候，我希望自己在二十四岁结婚，因为我喜欢恋爱，也喜欢过安定的生活。
现在当然不可能二十四岁结婚啦，问我什么时候我也不敢说。思想成熟之后，越多顾虑，越多负担，越多自己规律的习惯，要和一个人一起生活，白头偕老，就变得更难。

这不代表我不想结婚。只是没有对婚姻抱着任何憧憬。对我来说，家庭排第一，工作排第二。我还是比较传统，喜欢安分的守护家庭。工作也只不过是为了让自己的脑筋灵活，不要与世隔绝，而不是为了证明什么。不过话虽然这么说，但是我相信夫唱妇随，所以要知道我的造化，就也得看我嫁的是个喜欢不抛头露面的贤妻良母，还是拥有自己事业的现代女性。

哎！反正感情的事可欲不可求，等时机到再看风使舵吧！

到处都要贴上双喜

可爱的大哥

笑的多灿烂的妈妈，和背后的“阿燕姐”

和我一起下跪的新郎

大哥还真会找镜头！

Nat actually said this picture is typical of post-marriage syndrome. Haha!

Which brings me to share, the other day, someone told me she ran away before she got married. I didn’t used to understand why, because I’ve always wanted to get married at 24, and have babies before I turn 28, so that by the time my kid is 20, I’m only 48. Plenty of energy left to sit back， relax and enjoy old age. But these days, I realised that somehow getting married loses that wholesome appeal once you pass a certain age and that it can be quite nerve-wrecking to bind yourself to someone for the rest of your life.

My ex-college school mate got married on July 7th and I was truly happy for her. But before all the congratulatory hugs, I asked her how did she know for sure?
Suddenly, getting married at 24 seemed too early.
She shared that when they’ve come full circle, ultimately the security and comfort from someone you have been with long enough is good enough reason.

I guess it’s nice to know there’s someone who’d always be there for you “to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish ’till death do [them] part”.